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Saturday, February 9, 2013
Beneath the Surface
Advice #9
Beauty.
How many times have you looked in the mirror, and looking back at the person staring at you, just given up? So used to the let down of seeing somebody you don't truly feel like walk around as the mask you show the world?
Well look beneath that.
I know you've heard this before. We've all heard this before. But I don't know about you, but I've never been called pretty by a three-year old in Wal-Mart. I've always struggled with my image, being the younger sibling of somebody whom I've always seen as the pretty one, because not only was I told that by my mom and everybody around me, but it's what I think too. Not what I thought, but what still, to this day, believe in my heart.
But I know that true beauty isn't what you see at first glance. It never had been, and it never will be.
When you look at somebody, first glance, what do you see? Even if it's only for a split-second, you already have an image of what they look like, an opinion about them. You see their hair, or maybe the way their nose is shaped. But they look away, you look away, and you carry on.
But what you've just done, is taken somebody clean apart, analyzed them, and put them back together. In that split second that you saw them, you've completely judged them. And that's exactly what you've just done. You've judged somebody you know nothing about, except for what you've just seen.
Now I don't care if you're a saint, a priest or a monk. You're judging people constantly, and this is a part of natural human instinct. We judge people; and what it is, is that there's so much mystery around us, so much that we don't know--how the world was made, why we're here, what humans are, how we came here, what created us, or even if we're real-- that we're desperately trying to figure it out. You may be doing it subconsciously, but you're trying to figure out one of the only things you have even a little bit of power over. You're trying to figure that person out by first glance, taking in as much information about them as readily available.
But who are you to judge somebody?
This really struck me when a couple days ago I went out looking terrible. I was sick out of my mind that day, and normally I don't go in public unless I look (at least to my standards) good. I cannot tell you how many people stared at me for that second too long, trying to figure out why I looked that way. I cannot tell you how many people looked at me in disgust for having my hair messed up, sniffling around the store barely able to move because I was in excruciating pain just walking. I was getting medicine, but these people didn't care. They took me apart, judged me, and walked away with a negative opinion about me, right in front of me. Just because I was sick. And you know, half the people that saw me probably didn't even care enough to bother thinking I might have been in some kind of pain. They just judged me by what they saw, which was an unacceptable human being to be seen in public. Nobody cares about your story, all they care about is the benefit they get by seeing somebody pretty.
Now let's be honest - we've all done this, we all do this, and we're all going to do this. But I want you to take a minute and be honest with me. Have you ever seen somebody walking on the sidewalk, who's severely overweight? What did you think about them? Most people would look and say "ew, get a life you pig", but what they don't know is that this person has a severe auto-immune disorder that prohibits them from exercising because most days they're in so much pain they can barely move. For this person, it's miracle that they're even walking, but you, just looking at the surface, all you care about is that they're fat.
So what I want you to do for me, is that when you see somebody, don't just take that first glance and think that's enough. Look at that person. Really look. Watch how they move, look at how they think about things. I want you, no matter who you're looking at, to go below the surface of their face. Look at their features and how they hold themselves. Are they lost? Are they confident? So this way if you judge somebody, you can at least give this person a little effort. You never know what you might find.
A couple people I know always tell me I have horrible taste in men. But what they're looking at, again, is just the surface. They're looking for pure eye-candy. But I'm looking for that person, that when their face is angled just right, they're the most beautiful person in the world. Not when they walk around, but somebody that takes effort to see the beauty in, so that way I never stop looking for it, and I'll never stop finding it.
I really hope this advice will be useful to you. This is one of the biggest ones I stress, because looking at people like I mentioned before like Benedict Cumberbatch and Jared Padalecki, these are people who you have to really look to see how beautiful they are. But once you've paid somebody enough attention to find them in their best moments, I can assure you the world will repay you by giving you the same respect. ♥
And also, don't forget to find this beauty within yourself. I don't care how low your self-esteem is, I can assure you there are 100 things I can find in you that are beautiful, just in the way you handle yourself.
Keep your head held high, stranger.♥
-Evie
Beauty.
How many times have you looked in the mirror, and looking back at the person staring at you, just given up? So used to the let down of seeing somebody you don't truly feel like walk around as the mask you show the world?
Well look beneath that.
I know you've heard this before. We've all heard this before. But I don't know about you, but I've never been called pretty by a three-year old in Wal-Mart. I've always struggled with my image, being the younger sibling of somebody whom I've always seen as the pretty one, because not only was I told that by my mom and everybody around me, but it's what I think too. Not what I thought, but what still, to this day, believe in my heart.
But I know that true beauty isn't what you see at first glance. It never had been, and it never will be.
When you look at somebody, first glance, what do you see? Even if it's only for a split-second, you already have an image of what they look like, an opinion about them. You see their hair, or maybe the way their nose is shaped. But they look away, you look away, and you carry on.
But what you've just done, is taken somebody clean apart, analyzed them, and put them back together. In that split second that you saw them, you've completely judged them. And that's exactly what you've just done. You've judged somebody you know nothing about, except for what you've just seen.
Now I don't care if you're a saint, a priest or a monk. You're judging people constantly, and this is a part of natural human instinct. We judge people; and what it is, is that there's so much mystery around us, so much that we don't know--how the world was made, why we're here, what humans are, how we came here, what created us, or even if we're real-- that we're desperately trying to figure it out. You may be doing it subconsciously, but you're trying to figure out one of the only things you have even a little bit of power over. You're trying to figure that person out by first glance, taking in as much information about them as readily available.
But who are you to judge somebody?
This really struck me when a couple days ago I went out looking terrible. I was sick out of my mind that day, and normally I don't go in public unless I look (at least to my standards) good. I cannot tell you how many people stared at me for that second too long, trying to figure out why I looked that way. I cannot tell you how many people looked at me in disgust for having my hair messed up, sniffling around the store barely able to move because I was in excruciating pain just walking. I was getting medicine, but these people didn't care. They took me apart, judged me, and walked away with a negative opinion about me, right in front of me. Just because I was sick. And you know, half the people that saw me probably didn't even care enough to bother thinking I might have been in some kind of pain. They just judged me by what they saw, which was an unacceptable human being to be seen in public. Nobody cares about your story, all they care about is the benefit they get by seeing somebody pretty.
Now let's be honest - we've all done this, we all do this, and we're all going to do this. But I want you to take a minute and be honest with me. Have you ever seen somebody walking on the sidewalk, who's severely overweight? What did you think about them? Most people would look and say "ew, get a life you pig", but what they don't know is that this person has a severe auto-immune disorder that prohibits them from exercising because most days they're in so much pain they can barely move. For this person, it's miracle that they're even walking, but you, just looking at the surface, all you care about is that they're fat.
So what I want you to do for me, is that when you see somebody, don't just take that first glance and think that's enough. Look at that person. Really look. Watch how they move, look at how they think about things. I want you, no matter who you're looking at, to go below the surface of their face. Look at their features and how they hold themselves. Are they lost? Are they confident? So this way if you judge somebody, you can at least give this person a little effort. You never know what you might find.
A couple people I know always tell me I have horrible taste in men. But what they're looking at, again, is just the surface. They're looking for pure eye-candy. But I'm looking for that person, that when their face is angled just right, they're the most beautiful person in the world. Not when they walk around, but somebody that takes effort to see the beauty in, so that way I never stop looking for it, and I'll never stop finding it.
I really hope this advice will be useful to you. This is one of the biggest ones I stress, because looking at people like I mentioned before like Benedict Cumberbatch and Jared Padalecki, these are people who you have to really look to see how beautiful they are. But once you've paid somebody enough attention to find them in their best moments, I can assure you the world will repay you by giving you the same respect. ♥
And also, don't forget to find this beauty within yourself. I don't care how low your self-esteem is, I can assure you there are 100 things I can find in you that are beautiful, just in the way you handle yourself.
Keep your head held high, stranger.♥
-Evie
Saturday, February 2, 2013
FOOOOOOD
Advice #8
Sandwiches; now, they're healthy and all, but bread is pure calories. It's okay in moderation, but for school, I recommend something else. Find healthy alternatives, and moderate what you drink too--soda is no bueno, go for water or home-made iced tea. (Not with the powder flavoring though, you might as well eat sugar)
And also, no arizona tea or any other kind of canned "tea". It's delicious and all, but it's no better than soda, which is pure calories, again.
So make your food at home, and find creative recipies that are home made and healthy. Eating like this won't cause you to gain any weight, and if you're overweight, you'll find yourself thinning down, just by eating healthier.
Also, if you're craving a sweet drink, I recommend either fruit smoothies or home-made tea. What we do is we boil water with a tea bag in it for about 10 minutes, then we pour the tea in a container filled with sugared ice water. It tastes really good, plus you can add honey or lemon or anything you want to sweeten it. But again--nothing is better than water, plus it's great for your skin. ;D
Another thing--for breakfast, try to stay away from cereal. It's still just calories. If you want something sweet and easy, make some french toast, and while it's cooking blend up some strawberries so it's a sauce like texture, then sweeten it to taste and put it on the french toast. It's a healthy alternative to syrup.
(I feel like I'm just rambling on now..haha)
So anyway, this is the same for if you go to work too. You can pack lunches or you can go buy lunch, just make sure it's healthy. If it's greasy, chances are it's delicious--and unhealthy. If you eat healthy, not only will you keep a good figure, but you'll feel like doing a lot more. It's amazing how much you can get done when you feel good.
Another thing;
Skipping meals is just as bad as eating mcdonalds every day. When you skip something like, say, breakfast, your body goes into "starvation mode" and instead of burning fat, your body stores it so you don't feel as hungry. If you don't have time to eat, find something to snack on, anything is better than going without, especially for breakfast.
Also, you're going to want to find some kind of workout you do every week. Chances are, if you never work out, you will gain weight, no matter how healthy you eat. So find something productive and fun!
Any tips/advice that you found useful as far as food/diet goes? Leave it in the comments below!
-Evie♥
"Garlic bread is my favorite food. I could honestly eat it for every meal. Or just eat it all the time without even stopping."
"You'd get fat."
"No why would I get fat?"
"Because bread makes you fat."
"BREAD MAKES YOU FAT?!?"
-Scott pilgrim vs. the world
FOOOOODDDD.
We all like it. Do you find yourself feeling lazy a lot though? Not wanting to do stuff because it'll take too much effort? I understand--that's actually me, right now, which is why I'm blogging instead of doing something with my life. ;)
Anyway...
I'm mainly going to focus on weight-loss for this one. If you're struggling with it like I am, feel free to continue reading.
Now I have no idea how old you are, but whether you're 13 or 64, you need to eat healthy.
So let's say you're a teenager. What do you eat for school lunches? Do you have frozen pizzas? Maybe some kind of macaroni bowl? Or maybe you have a sandwich you made at home. My advice would be to, first of all, stay away from any and all microwavable food. This stuff is purely fat and calories you won't burn off while you're sitting down all day, and your body will store it. Which nobody wants. Plus, nearly anything greasy will reflect in acne on your face.
What I recommend;
Make your lunches at home.
I know that takes effort and sometimes we don't have time to do that, but if you don't have time, have your parents buy you some protein bars for those days you can't pack a lunch. They keep you full and, hey, they're protein! (Get BalanceBars in chocolate craze - they taste just like brownies)
But if you can pack a lunch, pre-make either a salad or a fruit-salad. Salads are delicious and extremely healthy, and if that's not enough to fill you up, stir-fry up some chicken the night before and add it to your salad. If you stir-fry the chicken, it has the perfect texture, plus you get to season it yourself! Don't like salads?
Make some white-rice and stir-fry up some chicken. (Don't forget to cut it into little pieces beforehand) when the rice is done, add it into the chicken, and finish with some green-chillies and cheese. It's amazing cold and hot, plus it's healthy.
Make some white-rice and stir-fry up some chicken. (Don't forget to cut it into little pieces beforehand) when the rice is done, add it into the chicken, and finish with some green-chillies and cheese. It's amazing cold and hot, plus it's healthy.
Sandwiches; now, they're healthy and all, but bread is pure calories. It's okay in moderation, but for school, I recommend something else. Find healthy alternatives, and moderate what you drink too--soda is no bueno, go for water or home-made iced tea. (Not with the powder flavoring though, you might as well eat sugar)
And also, no arizona tea or any other kind of canned "tea". It's delicious and all, but it's no better than soda, which is pure calories, again.
So make your food at home, and find creative recipies that are home made and healthy. Eating like this won't cause you to gain any weight, and if you're overweight, you'll find yourself thinning down, just by eating healthier.
Also, if you're craving a sweet drink, I recommend either fruit smoothies or home-made tea. What we do is we boil water with a tea bag in it for about 10 minutes, then we pour the tea in a container filled with sugared ice water. It tastes really good, plus you can add honey or lemon or anything you want to sweeten it. But again--nothing is better than water, plus it's great for your skin. ;D
Another thing--for breakfast, try to stay away from cereal. It's still just calories. If you want something sweet and easy, make some french toast, and while it's cooking blend up some strawberries so it's a sauce like texture, then sweeten it to taste and put it on the french toast. It's a healthy alternative to syrup.
(I feel like I'm just rambling on now..haha)
So anyway, this is the same for if you go to work too. You can pack lunches or you can go buy lunch, just make sure it's healthy. If it's greasy, chances are it's delicious--and unhealthy. If you eat healthy, not only will you keep a good figure, but you'll feel like doing a lot more. It's amazing how much you can get done when you feel good.
Another thing;
Skipping meals is just as bad as eating mcdonalds every day. When you skip something like, say, breakfast, your body goes into "starvation mode" and instead of burning fat, your body stores it so you don't feel as hungry. If you don't have time to eat, find something to snack on, anything is better than going without, especially for breakfast.
Also, you're going to want to find some kind of workout you do every week. Chances are, if you never work out, you will gain weight, no matter how healthy you eat. So find something productive and fun!
Any tips/advice that you found useful as far as food/diet goes? Leave it in the comments below!
-Evie♥
Friday, February 1, 2013
Ask Evie #1
This is a pretty big moment for me. Ask Evie's first question.
So a while ago I got this question;
"Should I 'suspend' my happiness for three months while studying for my end-of-course exams? My parents want me to."
Now, we all know how important exams are. But nothing is worth suspending happiness.
Now, let me ask you this question;
So a while ago I got this question;
"Should I 'suspend' my happiness for three months while studying for my end-of-course exams? My parents want me to."
Now, we all know how important exams are. But nothing is worth suspending happiness.
Now, let me ask you this question;
It may seem impossible. But studying for exams is setting you up for an accomplishment. And since Happiness is the most important thing in the world, why would you let anything jeopardize that?
So here's my advice to you;
Try to have fun while studying. These exams are huge deals, so why let that thought stress you out? The fact that you're doing it alone is an accomplishment. So try to find things to look forward to that'll make studying more fun. Time yourself so that you can do whatever you want after a specific time of studying. Listen to music, give yourself candy after studying. But don't ever--and I mean ever--let anything you do stop you from being happy.
Good luck.♥
Is there a situation in your life you need advice with? Anything you're going through that you'd like some support with? Ask me anything--my age, my life, my school, what color my dog is--anything you want in the comments below.
-Evie
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